Starting Out or Starting Over: A Newbie’s Guide to Online Dating
So, you’re ready to get out there and start dating. Great! You have all kinds of options for finding the right person. One thing’s for sure, though. Whether you’ve been off the market for a while, or you’re brand-new to the world of dating, there’s one method that you cannot ignore: online dating.
Technology touches just about everyone’s life these days, including how to pursue relationships. You endlessly scroll through pictures on your phone, swipe right or left to express interest or not. If you’re a newbie, such an approach may sound intimidating at first. But using technology to find the right person for you can definitely have its benefits. Read on to learn how to get started.
Where to Start
To make the online dating experience worth your while, you need to start with a little soul-searching first. And do a little research before you decide to dive in with one dating site or the other.
- Be Honest About Where You Are and What You Want
Really, what do you want to get out of this experience? Right now, are you looking for a long-term commitment, or just a casual fling? Apart from the level of commitment you are seeking, consider other things that are important to you. For example, if you are religious, really love dogs and have kids, those are things that can affect the type of person and relationship you’re looking for.
Your feelings may certainly change as you go along. But it’s just smart to start out with at least some idea of your expectations.
- Choose Your Online Dating Site(s)
There are a multitude of dating sites out there (eHarmony, Tinder, Match, Zoosk, Bumble, etc.). Some are broader (making it great for when you want to browse), while other more “niche” sites are also available to offer you a more tailored selection of potential dates from the outset. Some are free, while others require a membership fee.
You can simply do a global “online dating” search, and look for sites that feel good to you. Or you can also research what others feel are the best dating sites. Our advice? Start out by joining just one site. You can, of course, choose others down the line. But start small until you feel you have the hang of things.
Creating a Profile
Now that you know what you want, and where you think you’ll be able to find it, now’s the time to figure out how to best present yourself.
- Profile Pic
You want the profile picture you select to be as good as possible (the image is itself high quality, you have a good smile, etc.), but also accurate. By all means, make sure it’s current. Yes, your high school cheerleading photo may be great, but it is probably not reflective of who you are now. If you ever do decide to meet someone, you don’t want them feeling mislead by a years-old picture.
- About You
Again, put your best foot forward while still being honest. And get to the point. There are lots of people on dating sites these days, which means that many of your potential dates are likely scanning for vital info, and do not want to read your full biography. So, to get people’s attention, you want to get just the most important and interesting facts about yourself out first.
You’re an outgoing, career-minded person who likes to work out? Good to know. You can’t eat peanuts? Not as interesting. Unless it’s important for someone to know upfront, you should save the smaller details about yourself for when you move onto actually communicating with someone.
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Tags: Dating, Online Safety
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