A Guide to Confronting Your Cheating Partner
Cheating isn’t something anyone should have to deal with. It destroys your trust, and it can make you more paranoid in future relationships. The sad fact, however, is that many people will have to handle the knowledge that their partner is cheating on them at some point. Some studies indicate that in over a third of marriages, at least one partner has cheated on the other. It’s better to be ready for that confrontation in case it ever happens than to be completely blindsided by it at some point. Hopefully, you’ll never have to use this, but in case you do, here is a quick guide to confronting a cheating partner in a way that will get your message across clearly.
Decide how you want the relationship to progress after this
Are you looking to end the relationship with them, or do you want to try to patch things up and move on? It will make a big difference in the way you approach your partner when you confront them about their cheating. Studies show that cheaters are up to three times more likely to cheat again than non-cheaters, so it makes sense if want to let the relationship go. On the other hand, half of cheaters do not go on to cheat again. Statistically, it’s a coin toss, but if you have faith in your partner, and you’re sure that they can change, you might want to try again. It’s an extremely important decision, and something you’ll have to decide for yourself.
Gather the information you’ll need from multiple sources
You don’t want to approach your significant other about cheating if you don’t have any real proof. After all, cheaters are often very good liars, and they hate getting caught. That means that if you don’t have anything to back up your claims, your partner could very well talk their way around your accusations. Talk to your partner’s friends and ask them if your partner has been distant recently or if they’ve said anything suspicious. Do some internet searches for their name and see if you can find hidden social media profiles.
If you want the full story, try getting ahold of their phone and writing down any suspicious numbers. Then, you can use PeopleFinders to look those numbers up and find out who they’re cheating with. PeopleFinders’ reverse phone lookup feature will help you identify the owner of any numbers he or she’s called or texted before, and you can then do a background check on that person to get even more information about them. If you can give them the name of the person that they’re cheating with, they’ll know you have all the puzzle pieces, and it’ll be substantially more difficult for them to deny it. If you think the other person might not know that your partner is cheating with them, you might even want to get in touch with them! PeopleFinders can provide you with all the contact information you need so that you can talk to the other person through email or a different phone number. If you bring the person your partner’s cheating on you with, they won’t be able to deny any of it.
Make a general plan for the conversation
Before you talk to them, you’ll want to write down a general talking plan. What do you want to lead with? What points do you want to make? When do you want to bring up certain bits of information? Do you want them to explain themselves as you talk, or do you want them to listen, and then explain themselves at the end? Having a general plan will make it less likely for you to freeze or be easily taken in by lies that they might tell. If you know all of the points that you want to make, you’ll be able to get through all of them.
Confronting a cheating partner is neither fun nor easy. It’s a difficult conversation to have, and it’s not one that anyone ever wants to deal with. But if you need to have that conversation, it’s a good idea to have a plan. An important part of your plan should be getting the information necessary to prove your partner’s cheating ways effectively, and PeopleFinders is a great tool to use to find that information. Don’t go into the conversation making blind accusations; use every tool at your disposal, and talk to your partner about it on even grounds.
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