Families have many wonderful attributes. One of our favorites is the fact that a family can be extended at any time. New people can be added to your biological or extended family throughout your life. The largest and fastest growth spurts often come from the addition of a stepparent.
Family life can be a little difficult when a stepmother or stepfather is added. Children may resent the “new” person, and feel they are trying to replace a birth parent. Adults might have a completely different parenting style than what the family is used to, which can lead to misunderstandings and conflict.
Some experts suggest that it takes a minimum of four years for most stepparents to develop positive relationships with their stepchildren. There are no easy solutions that work for everyone.
Every “blended family” goes through a period of adjustment. Everyone involved needs to learn how to live and evolve together. It takes time for a group of people to learn to live and evolve together happily. Luckily, there is help. Websites like The StepFamily Life provide a variety of links and resources that offer tips, advice and suggestions on how to turn a newly extended family into a cohesively functioning team.
It may be a long and ongoing process, but bringing an extended family together in a caring atmosphere is well worth the effort. Two important things to keep in mind are that you must be patient, and you must be realistic. An extended family should be grown and nurtured over time. You can’t expect things to be perfect immediately, but if you’re willing to put in the time and effort, the rewards can be tremendous.
A Day For Your Blended Family
National StepFamily Day was founded by Christy Borgeld in 1997. Her goal was to champion and celebrate extended families in the United States, and she’s been very successful. She received support from government officials throughout the nation, and even former U.S. Presidents. Borgeld was also honored with a Congressional Award in the field of Parenting.
The holiday Christy Borgeld dreamed about was added to the U.S. Congressional Records in 2000. September 16 is now a nationally recognized day for honoring stepfamilies in America. To celebrate, blended families are encouraged to enjoy a picnic, play games or even watch a family-friendly movie. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you spend time together.
Happy StepFamily Day
However you choose to honor this special day, we hope you will take a moment to reflect on how important each person in your family is to you. Family members don’t always get along – step or otherwise – but the important thing is to work together and build loving relationships with the people who share our lives.
At PeopleFinders, we appreciate and respect families of every kind. If you have a family member that you’ve lost touch with – biological, step or otherwise – we’re happy to help you find anyone, anywhere. Spend some time celebrating your extended family on September 16, and thank you for reading the PeopleFinders People Search blog.