http://blog.peoplefinders.com/2010/02/26/sex-offender-news-phillip-garrido-prepares-for-trial/ Helping people find anyone, anywhere. Wed, 12 Dec 2012 01:42:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://blog.peoplefinders.com/2010/02/26/sex-offender-news-phillip-garrido-prepares-for-trial/comment-page-1/#comment-234205 Romiyo Tue, 21 Aug 2012 22:42:05 +0000 http://blog.peoplefinders.com/?p=1562#comment-234205 We were in the Bay Area at the time and I remember the Jaycee story, and later when she and her kids were rvreeoced. Creepy. It reminds me of Patty Hearst, her abduction and then working with her captors. I understand the phenomenon, a means of survival.My son's adoption was handled by a private adoption attorney. No social worker. Your post got me thinking about the relationships surrounding my relinquishment. I didn't have a lot of contact with the attorney, just occasional check-ins. He placed me (as in someone to live with during my pregnancy) with a woman he knew he could trust, who bought into the whole adoption thing. She didn't work me like a SW, but supported that plan, never opened the door to what I wanted, told me I was doing the right thing. She wasn't really my friend, like I thought. She might as well have been a SW. Between her and my parents, I never thought I had an alternative. I didn't dare buck the system.What toxic and manipulative relationships those were. It's so obvious now. Back then, it was all we had. And so we trusted.I recently ended my 40+ year relationship with the woman who housed me during my pregnancy. It had nothing to do with that, more about her negativity and demands upon me (perhaps I felt like I owed her). But I've felt so much lighter since. We were in the Bay Area at the time and I remember the Jaycee story, and later when she and her kids were rvreeoced. Creepy. It reminds me of Patty Hearst, her abduction and then working with her captors. I understand the phenomenon, a means of survival.My son’s adoption was handled by a private adoption attorney. No social worker. Your post got me thinking about the relationships surrounding my relinquishment. I didn’t have a lot of contact with the attorney, just occasional check-ins. He placed me (as in someone to live with during my pregnancy) with a woman he knew he could trust, who bought into the whole adoption thing. She didn’t work me like a SW, but supported that plan, never opened the door to what I wanted, told me I was doing the right thing. She wasn’t really my friend, like I thought. She might as well have been a SW. Between her and my parents, I never thought I had an alternative. I didn’t dare buck the system.What toxic and manipulative relationships those were. It’s so obvious now. Back then, it was all we had. And so we trusted.I recently ended my 40+ year relationship with the woman who housed me during my pregnancy. It had nothing to do with that, more about her negativity and demands upon me (perhaps I felt like I owed her). But I’ve felt so much lighter since.

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